I have always been a person who has
required external validation to feel good about the decisions I
make. Weather the validation came
from my mum, my husband or my friends… It occurred to me earlier this year
that although this is normal it is exhausting always wondering what other
people think.
It is funny how this blog came along, it is
quite possibly the least amount of external validation I have received from
doing something, but I have gained the most personal validation from it… That
may sound strange, but I soon came to realize I love writing, it makes me feel
good and I feel like I am good at it… the hardest part about that is, when blogging
it isn’t unusual to get minimal amounts feed back, you don't get a High Distinction or a pass mark and you are left with your own thoughts about it, which can be awkward for
someone like me who likes that confirmation.
The process of this blog has made me learn
to self confirm my own skill of writing and endorse my own opinion of my blog and
not relying on the opinions of my readers to validate if my blog is good enough
to keep writing. This is easier said than done at times and for those who think it is not, I challenge you to sit
and really think about your opinions of yourself and the things you do and why
you chose to think them and do them. (tricky sentence to get your head around I
know)…
Personal validation is great, I wish I
found it sooner, so far the moments of accomplishment last longer, not losing
their shine based on what I am worrying other people are thinking. I will
always require external validation, it is a part of me and my make up and it
shows I care about others and their opinions and it would seem a little narcissistic
if I never sought it out, but learning to trust that what I am writing is good
and worthwhile has been a great lesson and like all good feelings I want more
of it.
Today I am not going to end with “whilst I am loving my family” I am going
to end in something else, it is my goal to find more things in life that
encourage that feeling of self worth and self-validation. I want to find validation in the small
things I do daily, strive not to be a super mum but to feel super because I am
a mum and to know although as a women in this day and age, I can have “it” all,
it is ok to feel good about yourself even if you don’t want “it” all. Like the saying says “ the simple things in life are often the
best” and it seems that they might be much easier to achieve.
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